the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best.

Last summer, my husband and I bought a struggling plant that no one else wanted. Unfortunately, I don’t have much of a green thumb for plants or flowers. I joke that plants come to my house to die.

We brought the plant home and replanted it into a bigger pot, and left it outside, where our chickens proceeded to slowly eat away at its struggling tender leaves. We put it up higher than the chickies could reach, watered it regularly, and it flourished. When the cold weather came, we brought it inside. One by one, the flowers fell off, and it began to look sadder every day.

I began to think that this was one more plant that I had brought home to die. My husband felt that it was simply not getting enough light, so we moved it to where it could get more sun.

One day a miracle occurred! A flower bloomed! And, then another, and another, and it filled my heart with such joy. It reminded me that even in the darkest times, miracles happen. What we think may be dying may only need more light to bloom again. You are that light.

Della offers weekly zoom yoga classes, workshops, intuitive readings, and wellness coaching. You can find out more about her services here.

6 Steps to Staying Motivated

Many of us are motivated to eat right, exercise, live healthy, etc., but staying motivated is more challenging.

Here are a few ways that I have learned to keep my mojo flowing over the years.

Know Your Why:   If your reason for making healthy change isn’t strong, you can quickly become unmotivated. For instance, wanting to look good in a bathing suit this summer vs. desiring to live a long healthy life are two completely different sentiments. The first why feels temporary. The second why feels like a long-term commitment to self.

Gamify It:  Making diet and exercise a game has changed my thinking around the process. For example, I sometimes use a calorie app to manage my food intake. As I enter my food into the app, I try to see how close I can get to my allotted calories without exceeding them. Instead of being rigid and stressed out with the app as I was in the beginning it now has become a game I can have fun with.

Tracking: Tracking is a process where you use a visual aid to keep the motivation going. Like me, you can use an app or stars on a wall calendar. I go into detail in this prior post on how to do this. Like the above tip, tracking also works to gamify your exercise. When I see stars filling up my calendar each day, I feel like I am winning the game.

Mentor/Coach:  Connect with people already where you want to be to help guide and support you on your journey. Not only will they help you stay accountable to yourself and teach you methods for success, but they can also be your greatest cheerleader.

The Buddy System:  Surround yourself with positive people. Find a friend, family member, or a support group to keep your mojo flowing. Making lifestyle changes with a buddy can make doing the work fun. For example, my husband and I have the same long-term lifestyle goals. So having him by my side makes what can often be hard work enjoyable.

Reward Yourself:  When my husband and I started being mindful of our diet, we realized that we needed to have one treat a week to relieve the pressure of being vigilant for the rest of the time. The first time we permitted ourselves to do this, we went a little crazy. It took a few weeks, but we are now down to sugar-free chocolate pudding with light whipped cream on a Saturday night. We needed to be excessive in the beginning to learn that we didn’t want to be excessive.

Note:  A reward does not have to be food! It can be bringing yourself on a date, having that glass of wine, or buying a new pair of shoes.

Bonus Tip

Be Gentle With Yourself:  You will not do “it” perfectly all of the time. However, that does not mean you have failed. The key is to start again and then again if you need to. That is part of the fun of playing any game. You keep playing until you’ve won the game.

Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops, intuitive readings, and wellness coaching. You can find out more about her services here.

How To Feel Safe In An Uncertain World

My last post about staying present ended with the affirmation, “I am safe.” However, as I was dialoguing with my guides, I had not realized that my difficulty staying present was an underlying fear of not feeling safe.

As I talked to a friend about my aha moment, I saw how rarely I have felt safe in my life. I even described it to her as always being battle-ready. But, I also recognized that my fear wasn’t about being physically unsafe. Instead, it was an energetic or a psychic feeling of unsafe. As an empath, or someone energetically sensitive, I am always aware of the subtle energies in and around my environment. I can walk into a room and feel that something is off. I can even pick up a disaster that occurs halfway across the world. Judith Orloff’s book The Empath’s Survival Guide is an excellent resource if you are energetically sensitive like me.

I donned my armor at a very young age when there was actual danger around me. Becoming an empath was my survival mechanism to keep me secure. But unfortunately, I carried this armor with me into my adult life even when I was no longer at the same kind of risk.

Always being on guard is exhausting. As I contemplated letting my armor fall away, I realized how tired I was of holding that defensive posture.  

I decided to have a further conversation with my guides to see if they could help me unravel my root fear. I use the word root intentionally here as I know this fear lives in my first chakra. At the base of the spine, the root chakra is associated with the organs of elimination, the glutes, legs, and feet. It is where our programming from childhood resides. When this chakra is balanced, we feel safe. When this chakra is out of balance, we may experience fear on some level. 

For as long as I can remember, I have always had tightness in my legs and low back. This tightness can happen when you are constantly on guard due to being afraid. Fear can show up in many ways, for example, anxiety, worry, stress, phobias, etc. I have known this about myself for years. But it wasn’t until recently that I was able to bring this to the forefront of my awareness.

I wanted to start this conversation with my Guides by asking when did this fear begin? However, they encouraged me to ask this question instead.

Me: How do I heal and or dissolve this fear?

Guides:  You heal the past by breathing life into the present moment. You no longer need to “dig up” the past to heal the present. Bringing your hidden fears into your conscious awareness is enough to shift out of the fear. From this space, you can “see” that you are safe.

They showed me a grave robber digging up a grave. The robber represents me stealing the present moment away by digging up the past.

I wrote the above dialog with my Guides shortly after writing the first one. When I woke up the following day, I felt lighter and brighter. I felt as if an enormous weight had lifted off of my chest. I shared with my husband that you don’t always recognize a heaviness hanging on until it is gone.

Is this the end of my fear? I kind of doubt it. I am a human, after all. It is a beginning, though. I trust that life and my Guides will reveal more to me as I remain open with a willingness to lay down my ax and shield and slowly begin to let go of the armor I’ve built up over the years. But, of course, laying down my ax has more to do with my ability to trust that I am in no danger.

Dropping my guard does not mean I am no longer aware of an incoming threat. On the contrary, I know I have a warrior’s skill to deal with whatever comes my way if any danger arrives. 

Does my experience resonate with you? Let me know in the comments.

Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops, intuitive readings, and wellness coaching. You can find out more about her services here.

How To Stay Present

A recent conversation I had with my guides.

Me:  How do I become present?  

Guides:  Breathe. 

Me: Argh! I’m tired of that answer. You’ve been telling me that for years.

Guides:  And we will keep telling you that as many times as you ask the question.  

Me:  So, I guess I need to ask how to stay present?  

Guides:  Ah, that is the question we’ve been waiting for. Our question back to you is why don’t you stay present.

Me:  Because I have to get stuff done! If I’m not thinking about the next thing that needs to get done, I’ll forget to do it, and then I won’t get things done and then, and then. . . 

Guides:  What happens if you don’t get things done?

Me:  Then I am a failure. Wow, I did not know that was in there.

Guides:  See, a little dialog gets you where you need to be. You realize now that fear of failure keeps you from staying in your body and the present moment.  

Is it true that you are a failure if you don’t get things done?

Me:  No. It isn’t. But it feels scary. I feel a tightness in my chest when I even think about it. I define so much of my worth by how much I can accomplish in a day. So it bothers me when I have to slow down. I feel as if I am going to fail myself. I know that no one else has these expectations of me. This is something I put onto myself.

How can I shift this?

Guide:  Trust. Trust that you will get what you need to get done. We know this feels scary but try it as an experiment. Take this moment, breathe and follow the Flow of Life. The Flow of Life has no other desire of you than to experience joy. If you follow the Flow of Life, everything gets done precisely when needed. No efforting required.

Me:  That feels peaceful when I think of it this way. O.K. I’m going to give it a go. This feels huge. 

My worth is not determined by how much I get done! My worth is not determined by how much I get done. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.  

I guess I didn’t realize there was a safety element in this. That may be a dialog for another day.

Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops, and intuitive readings. You can find out more about her services here.

Online Pet Readings

I have recently begun offering online pet readings. I had no idea how much fun I would be having tuning into our animal friends!

What I have found during these sessions has been fascinating and even a bit “out there.” Sometimes I will tap into an animal’s past life. A pet’s past life can often inform the animal’s current behaviors. For instance, one client’s dog went to the bathroom inside the house even though she had been potty trained. In another life, this dog had been Egyptian royalty. She was used to being waited on and had servants who would follow her around cleaning up her poo. She did not understand why her current owner was upset by her behavior. I suggested that the client connect with the dog’s soul and explain to her how things are different than her Egyptian life. Also, the pet parent is not her servant and she needed to do her part for the relationship by going to the bathroom outside. I also coached the dog along the same lines while in sacred space with the animal. The client resonated completely with this information. I look forward to seeing how this story unfolds.

To begin the process, I ask the client to send me a picture of their pet along with any particular questions they may want more insight into. I then invite the animal’s energy and higher self into my field, which gives me a sense of its overall personality. If the client has specific questions about their pet, I can ask the animal’s soul at that time.

During sessions, I have accessed animals’ past lives, what the animal may need from their owners, and for one client, I even talked to beings from the star Sirius who told me that one of the reasons that system is called The Dog Star is due to their unique connection to dogs. These beings told the client they would guide her on her greater mission to help more animals.

If you would like to have a reading on your animal friend, I am offering these on a donation basis. Here is the link to donate. Once that is complete, you can email me here with a picture of your pet and any questions you may have regarding your animal. I will then email your reading to you as soon as it is completed. This is usually done within 24 hours but understand it can take longer.

Along with online pet readings Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops, and intuitive readings for people. You can find out more about here services here.

Return of The light

Return of the Light by David Copson

In mid-December, I came down with The Cooties. I tested positive for it a few days later. The first few days were easy peasy. I thought if this is it “I got this!” Then it turned into a sinus infection, which then turned into pneumonia. I ended up in the ER because I was having difficulty breathing.

During the first two weeks of this illness, I couldn’t touch the Light. I couldn’t hear my Internal Guidance System. I couldn’t “see” the Light at all.

I was shrouded in darkness.

I’d never had that experience before. Being shut off from the very essence of my being. I’ve always taken my connection to the Light for granted. I just assumed it would always be there.

When I told my husband about my experience he said that must have been very lonely. I started to tear up as he said that because he understood what I was saying. The Light has always been my companion. To have no access to that which makes me whole was devastating. One day, as I began to heal, the Light returned and I could see again.

I do realize that the Light never left but that is how it felt. I had many people sending me prayers and healing energy and even though I couldn’t “feel” it. I knew it. When I originally posted my experience to Facebook I was astounded at how many people had similar experiences. You can check out my original post here. I would love to hear if this has been your experience too.

Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops, and intuitive readings. You can find out more about here services here.

Power Over Pain

Have you ever noticed how, when you are in pain, your thinking tends toward the negative? This is because pain lowers your vibration or your energetic frequency. This can be any kind of pain. For example, it can be physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual pain. Negative thinking is a natural result of dwelling in a lower vibration.

How do we shift pain? We rise above it. Easier said than done, right?
Rising above pain does not mean we ignore or deny it. Raising our vibration means we can overpower pain. Let us look at the word overpower. It is made up of two words over and power. Declare your power over pain! Choose a peaceful or joyful thought and think that. This raises your frequency back up to a place of empowerment.

When we are in fear or pain, we can feel like our mind is in control. Another way to shift out of a negative thinking pattern is by moving your body into Child’s pose. Bring your forehead to the floor with your butt moving towards your heels. Your knees can either be open are closed depending on your comfort. If you want to take this pose a step farther, you can bring your hands into Prayer pose and lengthen them towards the top of your mat. This is called Guru Pranam. This posture quickly deepens your breathing and quiets the mind. It raises your heart above your head so the mind can still. Stay here for as long as you like.

I do this pose in bed before I fall asleep to clear the gunk of the day out of my mind. When I am anxious, I do this pose, and when I feel grief, I do this pose. Thus, Guru Pranam brings balance back into the body, mind, and spirit.

Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops, and intuitive readings. You can find out more about here services here.