The Divine Purpose of Fear

I was talking to my friend Lisa the other day and told her about a project I started out of fear. I have been known to be very judgemental of myself when creating from this space. She asked if I was continuing the project out of fear. I told her it had shifted to love. Her response to my self-judgment was to say to me that the fear had served its purpose then.

🤯

I had never looked at fear as serving a Divine Purpose before. On the contrary, it was always something I had to transcend. Isn’t that the goal of becoming a spiritual being to no longer live in fear? After this conversation, I think not. The purpose of the spiritual seeker is to use all of our emotions and experiences for our highest good. It may take some time to reach that goal, but eventually we all do

Fear can be either destructive or constructive. Fear was designed to keep us safe, not to be used as a shaming device. How it changed over millennia, I know not. But if The One Creator created everything, doesn’t it make sense that fear is one of those Creations?

From this point forward, I will look to fear as one of the many emotions my soul uses to move me to a higher place consciously. 


Della offers a FREE Loving Kindness Meditation via zoom every Tuesday at noon CST. Email her at della@innerpeacemovementstudio.com to be included.

Surfing The Chaotic Waves

This came through my journaling practice this morning. I thought I would share.

I am moving more and more towards stillness these days. Freeing myself from the external noise of the happenings of the world. Freeing myself from the to-dos that want to fill my days. There is constant pressure to protect me from the chaos of the world, to fight the oncoming changes that are inevitable. I know I am ready as I can be for whatever is going to unfold.

There is always change coming. However, sometimes that change is more dramatic than others, and this time seems to be the case too.

I sense what’s coming will be slow and steady. And, maybe in 18 months, I will look behind me and say WTF just happened? How did I not notice that all of this was unfolding? Was I too busy, too paralyzed, or simply complicit in the collective denial to do anything about it?

I have to trust that my soul knows what it is doing. I am here during this critical juncture of our world for a purpose. It is either as a witness or as a rock to lean on. I will remain steadfast in my truth. I may not see the big picture yet, but I trust something beautiful will be built from the wreckage.

My mantra these days is everything that does not align with my soul’s mission must fall away, even if that is the world as we know it.

What if. . .

I’ve been under a lot of stress lately. Who hasn’t been, right? The world seems to be such a scary place to live in nowadays. My anxiety has been over the top, so much so that I’ve felt like crawling out of my skin. Being in fear is not how I want to live my life.

When I get this way, and it’s not often, I have to dig deep into my toolbox to find my equilibrium. Yoga, mediation, exercising, journaling, and walking in nature are my go-to tools.

The most powerful tool I’ve recently employed is changing my perspective. Unfortunately, today’s media, whether news or social, contributes to our daily fears. Rarely do we see the good in humanity reported these days.

“Fear is addictive.”

It is up to us to jump off the fear bus and dive into the deep end of the peace pool. We do this by changing our minds. This is not an easy task as fear can be very addictive. Have you found yourself going back for more and more bad news? I have.

This morning I woke up and realized that I have been buying into the belief that uncertainty means pain, challenge, and death. So I decided to change my mind by pondering the idea that uncertainty can also mean the possibility of positive change. What side of uncertainty do you want to dwell on today?


Della offers weekly zoom yoga classes, workshops, intuitive readings, and wellness coaching. You can find out more about her services here.

Mindfulness Tip: Practicing Presence

I have been “practicing” Presence for a very long time now. However, up until recently, I have not been practicing well.

But, at the beginning of this new year, something changed. I can’t tell you precisely what occurred to instill in me this desire to take my practice to another level. It could simply be my soul’s call to go deeper within myself. And, the only way to get there is by being present.

Present – being, existing or occurring at this time or now.

I have noticed that I leave my body when not present. I seem to float somewhere around the area of my head. It’s probably due to all the thinking that my mind likes to engage in. However, when I find myself in this space, I have been bringing my awareness to my feet. This immediately brings me into my body and back into the present moment. I often have to do this many times per day.

The point of power is in the present moment.

Louise Hay

I love Louise Hay’s quote, “The point of power is in the present moment.” When we are not present, we give our power away. We don’t even realize that we are doing it. But, once we are aware, we can change our behavior.


Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops, intuitive readings, and wellness coaching. You can find out more about her services here.

How To Stay Present

A recent conversation I had with my guides.

Me:  How do I become present?  

Guides:  Breathe. 

Me: Argh! I’m tired of that answer. You’ve been telling me that for years.

Guides:  And we will keep telling you that as many times as you ask the question.  

Me:  So, I guess I need to ask how to stay present?  

Guides:  Ah, that is the question we’ve been waiting for. Our question back to you is why don’t you stay present.

Me:  Because I have to get stuff done! If I’m not thinking about the next thing that needs to get done, I’ll forget to do it, and then I won’t get things done and then, and then. . . 

Guides:  What happens if you don’t get things done?

Me:  Then I am a failure. Wow, I did not know that was in there.

Guides:  See, a little dialog gets you where you need to be. You realize now that fear of failure keeps you from staying in your body and the present moment.  

Is it true that you are a failure if you don’t get things done?

Me:  No. It isn’t. But it feels scary. I feel a tightness in my chest when I even think about it. I define so much of my worth by how much I can accomplish in a day. So it bothers me when I have to slow down. I feel as if I am going to fail myself. I know that no one else has these expectations of me. This is something I put onto myself.

How can I shift this?

Guide:  Trust. Trust that you will get what you need to get done. We know this feels scary but try it as an experiment. Take this moment, breathe and follow the Flow of Life. The Flow of Life has no other desire of you than to experience joy. If you follow the Flow of Life, everything gets done precisely when needed. No efforting required.

Me:  That feels peaceful when I think of it this way. O.K. I’m going to give it a go. This feels huge. 

My worth is not determined by how much I get done! My worth is not determined by how much I get done. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.  

I guess I didn’t realize there was a safety element in this. That may be a dialog for another day.


Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops, and intuitive readings. You can find out more about her services here.

Flexibility: My Word Of The Year

I start so many of my posts with the phrase I was listening to a podcast. I’ll be honest and tell you I listen to many podcasts. I learn so much from others’ experiences. But, this one sentence that I recently heard deeply got my attention.

Flexibility is strength.

As a yoga teacher, you would think that flexibility comes easily, and it does in some areas of my life. Yet, in others, I can be very rigid and controlling. When I heard this sentence, I immediately saw a very stiff rod with no give to it. It was cold and immoveable. I thought how that is often representative of my thinking.

When I had the cooties, I had to surrender to the illness in my body. For two weeks, I would sleep 12 to 14 hours a night and would often nap during the day. I could barely move my body during this time. I went from 10,000 steps a day to less than 1,000.

I was surprised that my body wasn’t stiff and sore due to lack of movement. Instead, I felt loose and fluid. This absence of tension in my body puzzled me until I heard the phrase flexibility is strength. That got me reflecting on why. During my healing journey, I wasn’t thinking. I was being. I was entirely in the present moment. The only “doing” I could do was being still. There was no worrying about the past or the future. There were no expectations of what I had to get done. I completely surrendered to the experience of my body.

Now that I am recovering my health, I have begun to notice tightness in my body again. I have been thinking more, planning more, doing more. . . controlling more.

This awareness has helped me decide that 2022 is my year of allowing more flexibility into my life. The more I can let go of control and allow Life to flow through me; the more flexible I will be in my body. I’ll tell you how it all unfolds.


Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops, and intuitive readings. You can find out more about here services here.

Power Over Pain

Have you ever noticed how, when you are in pain, your thinking tends toward the negative? This is because pain lowers your vibration or your energetic frequency. This can be any kind of pain. For example, it can be physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual pain. Negative thinking is a natural result of dwelling in a lower vibration.

How do we shift pain? We rise above it. Easier said than done, right?
Rising above pain does not mean we ignore or deny it. Raising our vibration means we can overpower pain. Let us look at the word overpower. It is made up of two words over and power. Declare your power over pain! Choose a peaceful or joyful thought and think that. This raises your frequency back up to a place of empowerment.

When we are in fear or pain, we can feel like our mind is in control. Another way to shift out of a negative thinking pattern is by moving your body into Child’s pose. Bring your forehead to the floor with your butt moving towards your heels. Your knees can either be open are closed depending on your comfort. If you want to take this pose a step farther, you can bring your hands into Prayer pose and lengthen them towards the top of your mat. This is called Guru Pranam. This posture quickly deepens your breathing and quiets the mind. It raises your heart above your head so the mind can still. Stay here for as long as you like.

I do this pose in bed before I fall asleep to clear the gunk of the day out of my mind. When I am anxious, I do this pose, and when I feel grief, I do this pose. Thus, Guru Pranam brings balance back into the body, mind, and spirit.


Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops, and intuitive readings. You can find out more about here services here.

The Next Right Thing

There is so much confusion in the world right now that it can be overwhelming. This overwhelm can create a state of paralysis within us. We don’t know what to do, so nothing gets done. We may want to do “something,” but fear keeps us from moving forward.

Instead, we allow ourselves to become bombarded with news, information, YouTube, and social media that we get sucked down the rabbit hole, and before you know it, we are in even more fear.

I remember being in A.A. many years ago, and the Old Timers would say, “When in doubt, do the next right thing.” I still follow this saying to this day. This morning, I woke up confused and disturbed by the state of the world again. Then, I remembered these words, and I calmed down. I went and brushed my teeth, practiced some pranayam, and then wrote in my journal.

The next right thing is as simple as brushing our teeth. When that is done, ask what the next right thing is. Do that and then ask again, and so on. The next right thing always shows up when you ask. Give it a try, and let me know how it has worked for you.


Della offers weekly yoga classes, workshops and intuitive readings. You can find out more about here services here.

How to Choose Love

I was listening to this podcast from Tara Brach on fear. She said that love is bigger than fear. This prompted the following conversation with my guides.

Me:  How does my Love become bigger than my fear?  

Guides:  You start by relaxing the body. Take some deep breaths in and let the breath sink deeply into the body. Imagine that each inhalation is filling you up with light. Imagine each exhaling breath releasing all of the fear that has accumulated in your physical structure. As you focus on the breath, the mind will follow. Once the mind follows the breath, the body can sink more deeply into relaxation—this relaxation response is the container for Love.  

Love needs a container. You may say that that is not true but think about it from the perspective of your physical body. The physical body is a container. You place into it anything from the foods you eat to the ideas you think. The body contains all of what you put into it. If the container becomes too full from food or drink, you don’t feel well. With time, if you continue to overfill your container, your body can break down and become diseased.  

If your mind becomes too filled with fear, violent images, overthinking, etc., it too begins to wear down. Anxiety, depression, and other “mental illnesses” can occur as a result.

Fear is not natural; it is a construct of the mind. But, on the other hand, Love is natural and eternal. So, to answer your question on having your Love be bigger than your fear, breathe.

Me:  That seems too simplistic.

Guides:  It is very simple. The mind wants to distract you from breathing. When you breathe deeply, you automatically move out of the mind into Presence. It is in this space of Presence that you experience Love.  

Me: It sounds like the mind is the enemy.

Guides:  Not at all. The mind is simply a tool that is needed to bring you into duality. For that is the reason you have arrived here. You wanted to learn difference. You wanted to experience opposites. You wanted to evolve and grow. You wanted to experience Love through physicality. There is nothing like your earth plane in all of the Universe. Those souls who have arrived here at this time know (on some level) the honor they are being given to experience Life. On. Earth.

What a party!  


Click here to learn more about my yoga classes on zoom, intuitive readings, and spiritual workshops.