How To Stay Present

A recent conversation I had with my guides.

Me:  How do I become present?  

Guides:  Breathe. 

Me: Argh! I’m tired of that answer. You’ve been telling me that for years.

Guides:  And we will keep telling you that as many times as you ask the question.  

Me:  So, I guess I need to ask how to stay present?  

Guides:  Ah, that is the question we’ve been waiting for. Our question back to you is why don’t you stay present.

Me:  Because I have to get stuff done! If I’m not thinking about the next thing that needs to get done, I’ll forget to do it, and then I won’t get things done and then, and then. . . 

Guides:  What happens if you don’t get things done?

Me:  Then I am a failure. Wow, I did not know that was in there.

Guides:  See, a little dialog gets you where you need to be. You realize now that fear of failure keeps you from staying in your body and the present moment.  

Is it true that you are a failure if you don’t get things done?

Me:  No. It isn’t. But it feels scary. I feel a tightness in my chest when I even think about it. I define so much of my worth by how much I can accomplish in a day. So it bothers me when I have to slow down. I feel as if I am going to fail myself. I know that no one else has these expectations of me. This is something I put onto myself.

How can I shift this?

Guide:  Trust. Trust that you will get what you need to get done. We know this feels scary but try it as an experiment. Take this moment, breathe and follow the Flow of Life. The Flow of Life has no other desire of you than to experience joy. If you follow the Flow of Life, everything gets done precisely when needed. No efforting required.

Me:  That feels peaceful when I think of it this way. O.K. I’m going to give it a go. This feels huge. 

My worth is not determined by how much I get done! My worth is not determined by how much I get done. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.  

I guess I didn’t realize there was a safety element in this. That may be a dialog for another day.


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How To Trust Yourself

If you have a history of addictive behavior, as I do, you might feel that trusting yourself does not come easily. I know how you feel. Time and time again, I have succumbed to the pull of my addictions. You may ask, how can I ever trust myself with my history of (fill in the blank)?

The key, for me, is to get quiet. Becoming quiet can be difficult, though. My ego-mind likes to keep me distracted from hearing my Inner Voice. It wants all of my attention.

Here are some ways that I have used to become quiet and listen to my heart speak.

  • Get out in nature. Go for a walk. Hug a tree. Sit by a lake.
  • Get creative. A simple coloring book will take you out of your active mind and bring you in into the present moment where wisdom lives. Gardening, photography, and painting can all be useful tools as well.
  • Exercise!  I use exercise to stay fit but mostly to quiet the mind and get me into my body. My favorite is my rebounder (mini-trampoline). I put on some rock and roll and bounce all the unruly thoughts out of me.
  • Breathe.  Long, slow deep breaths can bring you into your body where you can hear your higher wisdom more keenly.

Once the mind slows down, drop into your heart. The heart is where your Wise Voice lives. You can trust this Voice. How do you know you can trust it? Ask yourself how the message feels in your body. Are you feeling doubt or rightness? If you feel a rightness, this is your body’s internal navigation system telling you it is safe to follow through. This way of deep listening takes practice. I promise you it will be worth it.

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